Great thread.
We’ve been DINKS (Dual Income - No Kids) and happily married for 20 years, so that certainly helps the bank account.
I do have several (seemingly spendy) hobby pastimes but...
I don’t drink.
I don’t smoke.
I don’t gamble.
I don’t have any expensive motorized toys like boats, motorcycles, race cars, or ATVs.
We buy our vehicles used and drive them into the ground. Until last year, we had three vehicles from 2001 through 2003 and one has nearly 200,000 miles. Also, even though we can afford having the dealer do the maintenance, I work on things like brakes and oil changes whenever I can.
We pay off any credit card balance every month, and invest heavily in our retirement.
Except for cars and the mortgage, if we can’t pay for something outright, we’ll save up for it until we can.
For hobby expenses, I have discretionary funds available every month. Depending on other household expenditures, it may be nonexistent or small one month and large the next. If I don’t spend it, it gets added to the following month’s kitty. I did save up and buy a lot of my heavy woodworking equipment early on though. Since I knew I was in this for the long haul, I figured I may as well get the good stuff early on. I tried to adhere the golden advice around here of “buy once - cry once”, but admittedly upgraded some items along the way. I also bought a lot of lumber early on in bulk when it made itself available for (freakish) pennies on the dollar. What’s nice now, for woodworking anyway, is that any necessary expenses are just consumables like finishes, glue, and project specific hardware. As mentioned, I do have a lot of hobbies though, and have to spread my funds across all of them. What I need more of now is just free time.
Thank God for putting my wife in my life - she tolerates me and somehow finds me cute.